tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-65944518934209112182024-03-15T17:02:31.985-07:00Confessions of a Single Parent (Actress)Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.comBlogger177125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-1167758505927058262024-03-08T05:18:00.000-08:002024-03-08T05:18:34.069-08:00What can we do about gun violence?<span id="docs-internal-guid-2df8191b-7fff-7163-17e8-e0533c7fd8d1"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">There was another set of shootings near a school and where students were present. The growing gun violence in Philadelphia and across America has reached the level of an epidemic. From mass shootings to shooting into crowds of people or simply being gunned down, THIS is everyone’s new reality. When interviewed by the Philadelphia Inquirer, a parent admitted that they believed the shootings were only happening to bad people until their loved one was shot. Advocates across the city are holding vigils, speaking to the community, and trying to work with city officials for a solution. These strategies are employed across other American cities. Increasing policing is another favorite. But unfortunately for Pennsylvanians this will never be enough because our state has a gun problem. We are the gun hub of the northeast corridor. Not New York, us. I remember attending a press conference in 2018 and another in 2020 when two different state reps provided data to prove the point and yet here we are. Not trying to not be the gun hub but to stop the shootings. Contact your local state rep and ask them where the data can be found, because it is something we all need to concern ourselves with. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Speaking from personal experience, there is nothing more frightening or damning then receiving a call that your child or loved one has been involved in a shooting or your child or loved one calling screaming that they are in a shooting while they are running away. If you have not been touched personally by this, you will. Mostly because the problem of guns still exists. And you know what does not solve the gun problem? More policing, safe corridors, or curfews. Truth be told, I would love for America to simply eradicate guns altogether. It is difficult to shoot anyone if no one has a gun. But of course the 2nd Amendment is quoted often to protect the very guns killing people. And since many of us have no idea what the 2nd Amendment actually means it is a protection based on a false understanding. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">This was crafted when we were separate colonies. Each colony had its own militia, hence the word “free State”. So the right to bear arms was connected to the “protection” of colonial borders, NOT so you and every American could own a gun. This is why we have a division of armed forces to protect and fight. Now my agreement with that concept is a story and history lesson for another time. But, needless to say thanks to the bastardizing of this amendment, we walk around with a flawed purpose. We keep trying to end gun violence without fixing the problem of guns because we have “the right to bear arms.”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Another favorite solution is increasing gun regulations and making sure that shooters are given longer incarceration time. Well that is also flawed and not efficient. Neither of these have decreased gun violence, in fact it has increased since many of our states have some of the strictest and strongest regulations available. We also want to give youth something to do. Make school days longer, increase programming recreation centers. Because let’s face it if they had something more productive to do they would not have time to shoot each other or rob and pillage. Now on the surface, I agree with this idea, but it still misses the bigger point, we have a gun problem. And lots of people have guns and have access to guns. And according to the FBI, white on white crime is just as prevalent as Black on Black crime and guns are often involved so now what? Because moving away from the problem will not save you, look at how well that worked for the drug problem. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">At this point, we need to consider a radical solution for a problem that is not going away and only going to keep getting worse. What happens if guns were simply illegal? I believe there would still be shootings because drugs are illegal and there are still overdoses. But there is always the example of New Zealand and Iceland who banned assault weapons after the first mass shooting occurred and there have been zero since. But America is not New Zealand or Iceland. Because we have let it go on for so long that it is not enough to simply make them illegal because so many guns are already here. And we threw the same lame such solutions after every mass shooting until we arrived here. The truth is that our history of mass shootings include the killing of Indigenous, Black, and Asian bodies — remember when it was okay to kill folks because you hated them and deemed them disposable? This is the other WHY we never discuss, teach, or ponder when attempting to create solutions. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">So no, I have no idea what should be done. But, I do know everything that is being offered will never work mostly because it has never worked. So what do we do about the problem of gun violence when we refuse to admit that we have a gun problem?</span></p><br /><br /></span><p> </p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-29924138156223872612023-12-01T09:55:00.000-08:002023-12-01T12:39:51.014-08:00Exhaustion - Self Care - Saying No<p><b>Recognize what you can control and RELEASE what you cannot...</b></p><p> Let me just say that, when folks ask me, "How are things?" Or "How have things been going?" I often respond with a smile and a nod assuring them that everything is okay. We all do that. Especially women. But the truth is many of us are not okay. Many of us are simply tired, exhausted, depressed, and feeling as if our spiritual energy is simply depleted. We can point to many external things, such as, and not limited to, systemic racism, stupidity, toxic environmental health, poor access to mental health resources, the news, the lack of will of politicians, the economy, the job market (for artists and others), anti-history and anti-trans bills, or all the above including things not even listed here. OR, simply living in the midst of everything can wear a spirit and body down. </p><p><b>So what to do?</b></p><p>In order for us to thrive and not simply survive, we must find what matters most to us as individuals. We must remember that we cannot change everything all at once, or even more honestly, we may never see change in our lifetime. So then we have to be still. In the exhaustion, and the weariness. We must find the spiritual fortitude to rejuvenate our hearts, minds, and souls. Or else. So I have started to get a monthly massage. Visit my doctor regularly. Rest. Stay connected with friends and family. And say NO because NO is a complete sentence. I have liberated myself slowly but assuredly from providing an explanation for my no, for my refusal. because I finally realize that choosing myself or my loved ones is no one's business but my own. You know what I speak of: "Oh, I am unable to be there because blah blah blah" "I can't pick up those additional hours because blah blah (insert some lie that makes my refusal okay for someone else). No more. </p><p><b>What else can I do?</b></p><p>Not to view every rejection or zero response that I receive as a personal affront. Rather, view it as the difficult but interesting journey to a YES. The YES that brings the least amount of baggage, obstacles, and crazy. Every YES is not meant for you and sometimes a NO can save your life and more honestly your sanity. Embracing the sadness and lows when they come, and being okay when sometimes I am unable to get to the other side, because there is always tomorrow, medication, spirituality, and therapy. </p><p><b>But life is soo hard and crazy right now?</b></p><p>Do not lack courage and do not run away. Sit in the difficulty, because if not, the lesson will come again, and again until you pay close attention. And the next time it may be harsher just to get your attention. So sit in it the first time. Ask questions. Be reflective. If you learn how to sit in the dark, then you will be more prepared when the light comes again, </p><p>So yes, I am exhausted, but I am not finished. Yes, I am still working to gather more moments of self care. And I am committed to the liberation of the word NO, and to expanding my spiritual growth and commitment to faith. </p><p>FAITH brings YES</p><p>YES brings growth and opportunity</p><p>VISUALIZATION brings TRUTH and REALIZATION</p><p>NO ushers in LIBERATION</p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-42655520063319034942021-12-30T20:20:00.001-08:002021-12-30T23:52:15.439-08:00Dear 2021<p>Dear 2021,</p><p>Thank you for being OVER! </p><p>Thank you for starting out with the power of me providing a space for other artists to shine their light! A community filled with beautiful Blackness - Thank you Gumbo Lab. </p><p>Thank you for showing me after the reading of Black Bitch Cape, what an amazing show it will be in 2022. </p><p>BUT...</p><p>You also have been filled with people showing their true selves over and over. You gave us all some hope and then slapped us with new variants - Delta and Omicron. States passing bills literally stopping people from having actual conversations about race, sex, gender justice, and everything in between. Masks and vaccinations were politicized. Schools were unsafe. Reproductive rights were rolled back to the stone age. And the sheer exhaustion and hilarity of the fuckery continue. So here are some lessons for 2022. </p><p>Lesson One: Wear a mask. Period. </p><p>Lesson Two: Get vaccinated and boosted.</p><p>Lesson Three: Before you gather with new people or with family you have not seen since 2019. get tested. Because Lessons 1 and 2 are not enough. </p><p>Lesson Four: Read. Educate yourself. Focus on truth and not myths. Real and False history is right at your fingertips - - Choose wisely. </p><p>Lesson Five: Give yourself your flowers today and each day that you are blessed to be here. Do not wait for someone to send them. Go select the blooms that lift your spirit and soul TODAY! </p><p>Lesson Six: Whatever you have always wanted to do but were always too afraid to make it happen. Go make it happen. You may find actual joy and longer life after you free yourself from the mundane and the necessary. Even if that means doing NOTHING! </p><p>Lesson Seven: Go to therapy. Period. </p><p>Lesson Eight: Be kind. Love YOU. And remember that NO is a complete sentence. </p><p>Lesson Nine: Seek out authentic and honest communication </p><p>Lesson Ten: Be reflective every few months and keep what works and discard what is not. That includes habits, employment/careers, organizations, friendships, family, and intimate partners. </p><p>Live fearlessly in 2022! And unabashedly. 2020 and 2021 taught us that life is precious and we are not promised to leave this plane at a certain date or time. We are only promised today. No one will ever love you as well as you love you, so practice every day so you never forget what that feels like. </p><p>Until next time. Love and Light! </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-77387803481606471992021-12-24T06:40:00.003-08:002021-12-24T08:41:45.894-08:00Dear College Professors<p> Dear College Professors (Full-time and Adjuncts),</p><p>After year one of a global pandemic that is proving that we still have a way to go as we enter year two of COVID-19, there are some valuable lessons that all educators in higher education should take with them. Some of these lessons should have been learned before you entered the field, but I find that challenging times push many of us to either change for the better or stick to oppressive practices. </p><p><b>Lesson One: </b>Developing a relationship with each of your students does not weaken you. It does not make you less than. It does not make you less brilliant. It makes you human, which allows you to see the humanity in your students and peers. </p><p><b>Lesson Two: </b>People have lost loved ones, friends, and family. And are still losing people. Students have lost loved ones to COVID and to gun violence. Just because they are perceived to be adults, does not make the stress of all of it any less potent. This means a rigid syllabus just makes you an asshole. </p><p><b>Lesson Three: </b>You are the pathway for your students to see the world in a new way. If you are still teaching and using predominately white male scholars in your practice, then they are definitely simply seeing the mythological world and not reality. You must evolve your lens to evolve others. The world is currently a dumpster fire, we need each generation that comes after to know that other ideas, ideologies, and stories exist or else we will cease to exist ourselves. </p><p><b>Lesson Four: </b>Having empathy and understanding when it comes to students does not lessen your expectations. It does not mean you are playing favorites. It means that you are actually being a teacher, and utilizing differentiation in your practice. Kindness in your practice. Academia does not and should not equal oppressive, patriarchal, and racist practices. It is YOUR class, so do something for good instead of treating the profession as if it is attached to your fucking ego. </p><p><b>Lesson Five: </b>Find a hobby, a spiritual practice, some friends, a cause, or a combination of any of the aforementioned. Something that can help you to not take your teaching practice so seriously. It will help you find balance. Look to bell hooks who combined practice, sexuality, intimacy, curiosity, and love into her life. Balanced people are often, balanced educators. And their classrooms are a welcome place for all kinds of students regardless of their learning styles, abilities, or trauma. </p><p><b>Final Lesson: </b>Always consider the full arc of each student, not just their shortcomings that trigger your bias. This way, when they fall short, or something changes, you will actually notice. And then you can actually see their soul and their intentions, and work with them instead of against them. When you work against them, you are simply either trying to prove that you are right and they are wrong. OR, you are trying to prove that only certain students should be allowed into college, which is probably a bias that was passed down to you. Just because it was passed down does not mean it was valuable or positive.</p><p>Please take these lessons into 2022, as we continue to battle another variant, anti-CRT bills, white supremacy, and all those things that can cause anxiety, pain, sadness, and exhaustion for many of our students. As an educator in college, be the light that is so desperately needed. Or not...because lets face it, karma can be a bitch. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-38470289867991299282021-04-06T08:30:00.000-07:002021-04-06T08:30:26.051-07:00Another Talk to Teachers<p><i>"</i><i>It is not really a “Negro revolution” that is upsetting the country. What is upsetting the country is </i><i>a sense of its own identity. If, for example, one managed to change the curriculum in all the </i><i>schools so that Negroes learned more about themselves and their real contributions to this </i><i>culture, you would be liberating not only Negroes, you’d be liberating white people who know </i><i>nothing about their own history." </i> James Baldwin, A Talk to Teachers</p><p><span> This passage reminds me how the school curriculum has never been meant to liberate or encourage questions. It has always been intended to encourage the norms and structures of society, which means that half-truths and conjecture are often written in textbooks, and repeated in lesson plans. Just recently, a teacher at Lincoln High School in Philadelphia gave his students an assignment asking them to pretend that they were slaves, write a letter to the slavemaster asking for their family to not be sold. This is an African-American studies class. This is a Philly public school. This happened in October 2020. In 1988 in Chicago, at Mother McAuley High School, an American Studies teacher made some of us owners and slaves and proclaimed herself the head slave catcher. The quote from Baldwin was written in 1963. </span><br /></p><p><span><span> When classroom teachers decide that they want to teach the truth, they first must re-educate themselves and decolonize their own thinking. That can only happen if they realize that they have been miseducated in the first place. That teacher at Lincoln High School was not young or new, he had probably carried that assignment with him unchecked for years. Think of the students he miseducated and traumatized. This is why I am a firm believer that not everyone should be a teacher, and that anyone who does should be a life-long learner in pursuit of the truth. But first, one must acknowledge their implicit bias, racism, and upbringing. And that white supremacy and systemic racism are real. Then and only then can an individual question their own education and challenge their understanding of the world. </span></span></p><p><span><span><span> This is why improving teacher prep programs is not enough. Providing anti-racist workshops and conversation is not enough. Developing a robust and diverse curriculum is not enough. Creating more teaching certificates is not enough. If a person is not committed to ongoing edification and engaging in critical conversations, then they will continue to cause harm to students regardless of any intervention. The final paragraph of A Talk to Teachers, asks educators to do exactly this. Question everything. Challenge and analyze theories. And more importantly, continue to challenge the very pillars of public education by striving to seek and teach the truth by shining a bright light on the lies. But this requires you to shine a light on yourself and recognize how the very lies you need to fight have formed and imbued your very upbringing and status. </span><br /></span></span></p><p><span><span><span><span> So educators question everything, challenge everything, and teach social and racial justice for liberation in grades K-12. It is the only way to dismantle and shake up the establishment and create another generation of troublemakers with the courage to question. Because in the words of Baldwin, </span></span></span></span></p><p><i><span><span><span><span>"</span></span></span></span>America is not the world and if America is going to become a nation, she must find a way—and this child must help her to find a way to use the tremendous potential and tremendous energy which this child represents. If this country does not find a way to use that energy, it will be destroyed by that energy."</i></p><p><span><span><span><span> </span><br /></span></span></span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-64405884238359763522021-02-22T21:01:00.002-08:002021-02-22T21:01:58.272-08:00Why The Gumbo Lab? In February of 2020, I was excited and ready to play Audrey 2 in Little Shop of Horrors at Meadowbrook Theatre. Another bucket list role, but in the background COVID-19 is overseas and cases are slowly entering the US. I hear it but I am not taking it seriously, because no one is. Plus, I am headed to New Orleans the first weekend of March despite the email letting us know that cancellations are being allowed due to COVID-19. Off to the airport I go. I make sure to call my daughter who is headed home for spring break and advise her to clean out her fridge, wash clothes and linen, and make sure that her room is clean. But let me tell you, when I got to the airport it was empty, and it was the International terminal, which is usually full. Hmmm...<div><br /></div><div>I return from Bourbon Street and I am filled with shrimp and grits and wonderful ideas and connections for my job as a diversity consultant. March 9th. I head to an audition. I watched two dancers literally get asked to leave because they were visibly ill. Now, some of you reading this may say well that's a good thing. But, March is audition season and performers will come with one good lung to an audition and no one blinks an eye. But on THIS day it was different. Oh and did I mention that Penn Station looked pretty empty. March 10th, Maya and I head to the movies to watch The Hunt. It is spring break for most colleges. I came with Clorox wipes for the seats and spray. Because now I am watching the COVID numbers, while secretly still hoping that I can go to Michigan and play Audrey 2. </div><div><br /></div><div>And the next day the city of Philadelphia was on a stay at home order, and I was glued to the TV. The deaths, the numbers, the deaths, and I with the rest of America were left wondering what now?</div><div><br /></div><div>So now cancellations are happening all over. Millions are filing for unemployment. Housing is being threatened. People are dying, and uprisings are occurring across the summer in a response to systemic racism, white supremacy, and murder by cops. And performing artists are left wondering what now?</div><div><br /></div><div>Broadway, regional theater, TV, and film leadership start holding "town halls" and "conversations" about longtime racism in casting, show choices, directors, producers, and overall access. BIPOC artists unapologetically share their stories with the world, and start to create networks dedicated to making their voices heard. But much has still remained the same.</div><div><br /></div><div>Virtual programs start and artists of course begin figuring out ways to be creative and seen. But many were not fully able to provide monetized pathways for themselves or other creatives. And then I start to think how can I be a catalyst for change instead of just talking about what could and should happen. So I write a proposal. An idea. I want it to be for Black women. I want it to be for Black trans and queer women. I want it to be a space to create original work with an actual team of professionals. I want it to be a residency that provides more than just a room, some snacks, and a name. I also want it to be virtual, intergenerational, and powerful. And more importantly, I want to pay people. </div><div><br /></div><div>All the while, that this idea is brewing, I am also creating a BIPOC database. A space for BIPOC creatives to be seen by the world, but also find work. grant opportunities, and more. A space that takes away the "excuses." You know the ones. <i>"I have always wanted to hire more POC but I just never know where to find them or they don't apply, or they are always busy."</i> Excuses, excuses, excuses! </div><div><br /></div><div>In a few months, from my house, during a pandemic, I locate over 100 BIPOC creatives and design a <a href="https://sites.google.com/view/bipoc-creatives-database/home?authuser=0" target="_blank">website</a>. Done and done!</div><div><br /></div><div>Now I start to think about what more can this "idea" offer. Can it be a space for theatre, film, TV, and other virtual programs? Yep! Can it be a space that can work with other production companies to create a powerful base to usher in more black centered content? Yes! Can it be a place for critical conversations about media? Yessss!! Now what to call it? Salon? Story Lab? What?! Then I start to think about my girlfriends and how we gathered before the corona. Over food, drinks, conversation, laughs, and dessert. Then I remembered the second to last meal I had with friends in person, and it was in New Orleans. Remember that trip? And Gumbo Lab hit my soul just like those grits and shrimp and I knew that I had the name. THE name that said <i>"we have the necessary ingredients to make you shine and shake things up!" </i></div><div><br /></div><div>So when people ask me Why Gumbo Lab? Why not?</div><div><br /></div><div>Where else can you, as an artist, be welcomed into a space that not only offers beautiful community, a bomb ass team of directors and cinematographers, 10 professional workshops, and space. The space and time and accountability partners necessary to create an original script. A space that is not simply for "emerging" artists but is intergenerational. And where everyone looks like me and you! </div><div><br /></div><div>So I say yes! We have 3 powerful new shows. And the response has been overwhelming positive and exciting. This is what happens when you have an idea, a clear direction, a dose of integrity, a work ethic, and an ask. This is what happens when you stop asking for permission and simply step into the truth of what can be. This is the power of <a href="https://sites.google.com/view/bipoc-creatives-database/home?authuser=0" target="_blank">Gumbo Lab</a>. And I am so excited to see what comes next. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-23212169393313352542020-12-29T13:45:00.002-08:002020-12-29T13:54:33.995-08:00If I Die Tomorrow...<p>So it is the end of 2020, and each year, this is a time for reflection and introspection. And I do not want to make jokes about death or dying with over 300,000 American deaths as a result of COVID-19. And the numbers are climbing. We have also lost loved ones due to cancer, murder, accidents, and natural causes. This makes death real. It makes near death experiences of 2020 even more poignant. It makes me not want to waste time doing anything that does not bring me joy, edification, or creative experiences. I no longer want to spend time with people who make me exhausted, sad, or even worse uninspired. So this is my reflection on if I were to die tomorrow what am I grateful for. </p><p>So here it is, if I die tomorrow, I will always be grateful for my mom, my aunt, my cousin, and for being a mother to my amazing Maya. I am grateful that Maya is learning some hard lessons while managing her mental health and grief, and that she can find moments to smile while knowing that it is okay to not be okay. Maya has also taught me that we cannot run from obstacles, "Where am I not going to be Black and a Woman?" Facts! I am grateful, that some people have stopped speaking to me, and I am even more grateful for taking better care of me. I have a tendency to always think of others first, and often to the detriment of self. I am learning (thank you Debra Wright) that "No is a complete sentence." I also don't rush to pick up the phone nor respond to an email. I am also no longer rushing to accept apologies because lets face it, someone did something that pissed me off and the goal should be for that to not happen again, fuck a sorry. <i>LOL! Just writing that gave me great joy and peace.</i> I am grateful for all the lessons of 2020. </p><p>This year, many artists lost contracts and saw work vanish in the blink of an eye. I am grateful that auditions continued to come. I developed some amazing virtual audition techniques in the process. I also finished my solo show, which includes 8 original songs (written by me). In the midst of the crazy, I found inspiration to build Gumbo Lab. A virtual platform dedicated to BIPOC artists. And The Solo Project, which is the first Gumbo Lab production, is being sponsored by the Leeway Foundation and Black Lives Matter Philly, along with numerous individual donors. This is a major win during a time when many are struggling financially. Each weekly check-in that we have with the directors, cinematographers, and the artists has been inspirational and confirms that the community that I wanted to build and nurture is becoming a reality each week. Watching the gumbo cook is amazing! Ultimately, the Soul Full Celebration was a labor of love that featured some of my most talented friends performing and speaking about the wonderful work they continue to do in the community. Another positive for 2020. </p><p>I have been a part of some great virtual projects this year as a behind the scenes producer and in front of the screen as an actress reading new shows for new playwrights. Helping organizations to get the youth vote out with the Philly House Party. Organizing an impromptu concert which featured artists from LA, NYC, Philly, Brazil, and social justice and local organizations. Finding joy in the midst of the storm is a theme for 2020. And as I look back, I am reminded that I tried to make a way out of no way. And that I am surrounded by some amazing friends and family. </p><p>In the world of publications, I started with one chapter in a compilation about Black Lives Matter at School, and will go into 2021 with several more about race, black feminism, and what it means to do the work that many of us avoid. Confirmation that learning does not start or end with the number of degrees earned. </p><p>Continued lessons that everyone is not who they appear to be on social media, and we all need to practice more honesty and integrity when it comes to our work and our intentions. I have gotten closer to some friends who I had lost contact with. I have been able to share holiday traditions and more with family in Chicago thanks to Zoom. And I am also reminded that when people are fearful they can exhibit some behaviors that can make you crazy if you allow it. And I am no longer allowing it nor am I giving anything that does not feel right in the light of day. Because I have lost friends and family to natural causes and murder in 2020 so my perspective on what I want life to be is becoming very very clear. </p><p>Of course, I pray for life and to spend more time with my family and friends. But, I am grateful that I continue to live my life as if each day is my last. Not taking any moment for granted. Not taking any moment of inspiration or creativity for granted, It is why I keep a notebook near my bed. Some of the best things I have written came from that notebook. Listening to my spiritual guides to avoid difficult lessons. Reconnecting to my center so that I can be more balanced and "see". And let's face it. Many of us cannot say the same. It is the reason we spend so much time on social media trying to convince others and ourselves that everything is amazing or that we are such experts in "everything." When the truth is, many of us live in constant fear, and many of us do not know how to exist with fear so we fight it by lying to ourselves or even worse making others peoples lives miserable. We also love to hide behind our deep flaws and self-harming habits while critiquing others for having similar demons. This is why the 4 Agreements are so important (Thank you Don Miguel Ruiz)</p><p></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>Be impeccable with your word</li><li>Don't take anything personally</li><li>Don't make assumptions</li><li>Always do your best</li></ol><div>Live, Reflect, Shed, and Repeat</div><p></p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-52293205156643166962020-11-02T14:12:00.000-08:002020-11-02T14:12:00.399-08:00SCOTUS, Healthcare, and the Right to Vote<p>It had been 151 years since a last-minute nomination to the Supreme Court was approved during an election, and now with 52 votes, we have Amy Coney Barrett. There was a time she would not have been nominated because the vote used to be 60. And now it is not. Changes, changes, changes! She considers herself an "originalist" and believes that Supreme Court judges do not make policy. Her entire confirmation hearing was filled with non-answers and pre-recorded rhetoric of previous judges. And now the court is firmly right of the right. and it appears as if the citizens are in a quandary.</p><p>On top of that "He who shall not be named" has appointed more federal judges across the country than any other sitting President. Another quandary. Especially because many are upholding some rules that will hinder and affect the upcoming election. </p><p>A week after the election, the Supreme Court will begin to hear California v. Texas, which will directly and purposely question the Affordable Health Care Act. An imperfect bill that has provided healthcare for millions with pre-existing conditions. Next week the crux of the case is should insurance be mandatory. If the case results in that section of the bill being gutted it will forever change access to insurance and healthcare. This, in the midst of a pandemic when healthcare is necessary for all of us. It will also result in additional tax breaks for the rich. Why? Because a large percentage of the AHCA and Medicare are covered by a percentage of taxes from investments (this includes capital gains). And the piles of quandaries continues to grow.</p><p>Pennsylvania and North Carolina have barely maintained that votes will still be counted even if the mail-in ballots arrive late. According to Twitter, the White House firmly believes that an election should end on election day. Despite the fact, that national elections always count votes this way. Always. For a long while. Yet, there were sessions in the PA Republican majority House occurring about changing the electoral vote and changing the rule, days before the election. Wisconson successfully passed a bill stating that no late votes will be counted, so if you live in that great state get those votes in. And Alabama ruled against curbside mail-in ballot drop-offs just because. Despite it being a great incentive for the elderly or individuals with disabilities. </p><p>WHAT DO WE DO NOW!1 </p><p>We do what we have always done when the government is having internal turmoil and has lost its moral compass. We vote. We participate in local elections by encouraging new and better people to replace those who have done nothing for years. Here are the states that are having those elections tomorrow and the <a href="https://www.nga.org/governors/elections/" target="_blank">schedule for the rest of us.</a> We also call on our US Congress to immediately recommend that the <a href="https://harvardlpr.com/2019/05/06/the-supreme-court-has-been-expanded-many-times-before-here-are-four-ways-to-do-it-today/" target="_blank">Supreme Court be expanded</a>. Remind them that historically it has already happened before (Lincoln and Roosevelt). And it needs to happen NOW! Get prepared for the upcoming US Congressional elections that are not tomorrow. Ask yourself, if you feel fully represented and safe? If the answer is a resounding no, then take the opportunity to make some changes. </p><p>Additionally, we need to really look at the current two party system, with the winner takes all philosophy. Does it work? What needs to be changed or improved? What about that old electoral college? How can we guarantee the Voting Rights Act and make it permanent instead of one that has to be renewed every 7 years? That's right, if you are Black and a resident of the US your right to vote is not permanent or safe. (The only members of the US that needed not one but two voting laws).</p><p>Each state and city that had police running amok with no consequences, look to the DA election. Make sure that your select a governor that will appoint an AG that represents you. Even better, look to change the charter of your state that says an AG needs to be appointed and not elected. Yep, that is also a possibility. Consider rank voting (look to Maine). </p><p>We all need to get our heads out of our asses and come up with an actual plan. And stop realizing we need a plan the day before the election (this article does not count because I have been saying this for years). I have voted in every election since I turned 18. Even when I moved to a new state I would quickly get registered and participate. My advice is to keep a watch on SCOTUS next week. Keep watch on those states that have governor races tomorrow. Keep watch on those ballots. And more importantly, if you have not already voted make sure that you are heard tomorrow. </p><p>I realize, that some believe that it doesn't matter. "My vote will never change anything." If that were true, then why does the "machine" work so hard to make sure you don't know anything about how government works? Why do they work so hard to make sure that certain votes are purged and gerrymandering happens? Why do they silence felons from voting? Why did they replace killing people for wanting to vote, by simply making sure we know nothing at all and making us apathetic? Because VOTING DOES matter. It is very dangerous and it threatens the status quo. So keep making them nervous by going to vote no matter what!</p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-81913621928763058792020-10-31T12:25:00.004-07:002020-10-31T21:26:56.005-07:00The Philly School Board is a Farce<p>On June 30, 2018, the School Reform Commission voted to dissolve. Many educators, parents, and organizers were joyful at this monumental win. It signaled the end of state control for the School District of Philadelphia. And then the creation of a locally controlled school board started. It eventually included students but gave them no vote. At first, it appeared as if a variety of applications were being seen, it almost appeared as if something different would occur. </p><p>It resulted in some new faces and some who had been on the SRC. You can <a href="https://confessionsofsingleparentactress.blogspot.com/2018/07/will-local-control-be-different.html" target="_blank">read here</a> the very first school board meeting details. The format of the meetings, the speakers attempting to be on the record, a litany of Sunshine Act violations (thank you Alliance for Philadelphia Public Schools - APPS), and Superintendent Hite always having the final word, the growing list of working with outside vendors for basic and unnecessary needs, and the simple presence of democracy rendered invisible. I soon realized that this looked very much like the SRC of old, and the people were still barely being heard.</p><p>Each time a problem arises, the parents, educators, and community organizers make sure that their voices are heard. Even during the uncertainty of COVID-19, the people continue to push back and continue to go on record. Of course, as the meetings have been virtual, access to technology has limited the voices of many parents. Even time limits on speakers have been more draconian than usual. And some of the board members fall asleep (Wilkerson) and others just have questionable ties (McColgan). And one recently just stepped down (Akbar). And the meetings last for hours (Exhausting!).</p><p>Even the wins of getting the Board's support for Black Lives Matter Week of Action, a more robust Social Studies curriculum, and the ask for more Black educators to be hired seems like symbolic gestures when you continue to see how many problems persist. Despite all of the work that went into it from the organizers. The problems persist.</p><p>The problems include racism in schools (#BlackatMasterman, #BlackatCentral), a lack of actual consequences for policies #248 (harassment), #249 (bullying and cyberbullying), and #252 (Trans and non-binary students), policing in schools (now they have new uniforms and new titles), asbestos, HVAC and ventilation systems, equitable access to the internet for all families, a pending teacher contract, new online platforms (Canvas is coming when folks are still trying to figure out Google classroom), and reopening of school buildings. All of this combined with questions regarding funding and spending continue to maintain the district's chronic dysfunction. </p><p>Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) work is being rolled out with Equity groups. Schools were all provided some guidance, language, and "encouragement". You know what was missing? The actual mention of systemic racism, white supremacy, patriarchy, sexism, transphobia, and more. You know. all of the things that result in diversity, equity, and inclusion never being achieved. </p><p>We need an elected school board. Immediately! Yes, the city charter needs to be changed. It should be the next ballot box issue. We also need a new superintendent (one from Philadelphia - Byeee Hite!). </p><p>But, of course, there are concerns since the history of Philadelphia's political institutions are mired in corruption and backroom deals. Remember 2011, when Rep Evans and SRC chair Archie were tasked to find a company to take over King High School? Remember the great layoffs and school closures of 2013? Remember the agreement between Mayor Street and Governor Schweiker that resulted in the state takeover of 2001? Remember the promise to reform bail? Remember teachers not having a full voice about their contract or even worse having no contract for 4 years? And what about the members of the City Council who somehow can never be voted off the island (President Clarke)? Gerrymandering? Redistricting? Monies to run an election? These are just some of the worries and issues that could plague an elected school board without purposeful planning, strategy, and will. </p><p>There is hope in the new progressive candidates that have been recently elected to the council (Brooks and Gauthier). There is hope in the political environment (Working Families and Neighborhood Networks). There is hope in the student voices (Philadelphia Student Union & Philly PBSA). There is hope in the parents and the educators organizing each day. But is that enough? Is hope enough to counter decades of systemic racism, backroom deals, internalized oppression, selfishness, and greed? I am not sure. The better question is, <i>Philly are you ready for something different?</i></p><p><br /></p><p> </p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-29373262191132243322020-08-14T08:25:00.002-07:002020-08-14T08:43:13.202-07:00The Art of being Critical <p> So after Biden announced his VP pick, a divide happened. Everyone started to critique the political record of Harris and the reason she may have been selected. Some African-Americans were joyous about her being the first African American VP pick. Some were not because they had questions about her record as a DA, AG, and Senator. And the questions and concerns are valid because there is lots there to mine and consider. Many questioned and wished for Abrams. And could not help but notice the presence of Colorism in the conversation. And African-Americans have the right to question and disagree. You know why? Because contrary to what everyone believes, Black people are NOT A MONOLITH! We do not think and breathe the same on every issue, problem, politician, or situation. </p><p>But something that Black women do is VOTE...in...every...election...in...high...numbers. So if you are reading a critique or a compliment written by a Black woman about Harris or former President Obama or any Black or white politician, WE have earned the right to be critical and complimentary because we always show up, show out, and sometimes even save America from itself. </p><p>And white people, are also asking questions but they try and keep it among themselves on social media or even worse get brave enough to tell a Black person that they should not critique another Black person. Yeah, that happened to me and I quickly said Fuck it, in the only way I know how. Byeee and block!</p><p>Once again, let me elucidate on why being critical is not a terrible practice. And why folks need to stop silencing people with, "Well the most important thing is to get rid of the evil that is in the White House and then we can blah blah blah." The problem with that either/or thinking is that it makes the flawed observation, that "evil" was ushered in with Trump and it will be eradicated if he loses. We were already living in the constant hail shower of racism and white supremacy since....wait for it...EVER! It did not start with Trump, it simply became more overt and forced many out of a false post-racial slumber. Even some famous Black people listed a list of items that Harris never did, but Trump is infamous for. Things like rip families apart at the border and doing other racist shit.. It is a wonderful meme if the people reading it are already aware that EVERY President we have ever had in the United States has done horrible and racist shit. And many of the same who did those horrible things to Black and Brown people also did wonderful and helpful things too. The Affordable Health Care Act...good. No Child Left Behind...bad. Race to the Top...bad. War in Iraq...questionable. The nuclear arms race...bad. Eliminating checks and balances for Wall Street,,,bad. The Marriage Equality Act...good. Because that is the textbook definition of being a politician. The reason is because most Americans cannot hear a person when they speak of radical change. Shit, they can barely hear you when you speak of gradual change. And remember the election of 2016 was a close one, which means that Trump's ideals and practices and opinions have lots of supporters...still.</p><p>So what do we do? So what can we do? We can start by being open to the criticism and debate. We can practice listening to other sides. We can also remember and listen to the words of James Baldwin, "I love America more than any other country in the world, and exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to criticize her perpetually." </p><p><b>Local Elections</b> are coming up. Who do you want to represent your city and state? Who do you want as a DA? And do you finally realize that the "top cop" position actually should serve as THE accountability partner to the FOP and not be sponsored by the police? Who are the judges in your city and state? What is their history and practice? Examine how your state has handled COVID, the state of poverty, wage inequality, immigration, LGTBQ+ rights, gun violence, internet access, and public education. These are all items that can be legislated and argued at the local level. One does not have to wait for "better" leadership in the White House. We can also propose to our local government that we want to put rank voting on the ballot. In other words, how are YOU preparing for this? Besides gearing up for a debate on social media, how can you work towards creating ripples of change. Because let's face facts, no one is coming to save us. </p><p><b>Critical Lens Development: </b>Continue to read and listen to articles and interviews that came out before the primaries and after. Continue to read and listen to books and interviews about America's past. So that we can stop believing in a golden era that only every existed for the chosen few. Read about past movements and briefs and dissents written by Supreme Court judges on the last few laws and every one that has been passed. They reveal lots about the state of our courts. Read and actually speak with those you disagree with, sometimes the echo chamber is real but I do understand it is difficult to have sensitive talks with individuals you do not even trust. So do not reach out to strangers or people you only see on social media, talk with friends and colleagues. Or even better join a group that is actually doing the work so you can see who is being silenced and why. Develop critical networks. </p><p>And remember the most important practice as a person who strives for critical thinking and development, being critical is a wonderful practice to develop those muscles. </p><p><b>Final thoughts:</b> America is a country that has and may never face up to her own demons, which is why I believe they continue to stir and leap out every chance they get. It is the equivalent of trying to chain a rabid dog, eventually they break free and must be put down. Is there a reason to be hopeful? Sure, but not in the way we often think. There are progressive candidates ignoring the money of lobbyist and running and winning in city and state elections. That is hope. There are organizations doing some amazing work to make sure that Black Lives Matter so that every life finally can. That is hope. There are teens speaking out and organizing against injustice and racism. That is hope. There are young people getting out to vote. That is hope. There are independent news outlets and book publishers that are getting the truth out. That is hope. </p><p>And that is why like Zora, I write and speak aloud the critiques I have. I have also had my mind changed when I watch people change because I have seen it happen. We all have the ability and capacity to evolve and change. It is what makes us higher complex mammals. We also have the ability to listen, hope, critique, disagree, and in November still VOTE. </p>Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-91620605210335012892020-08-02T23:05:00.003-07:002020-08-03T07:23:23.147-07:00Looking for Lorraine - Reflections from the Book Chat <br />
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Each summer, the summer book series. brings an opportunity to discuss something new and interesting, but even more, it is an opportunity to connect the world of education to other parts of life. Housing issues. Art. Activism. History. Black feminism. Having conversations with fellow educators and parents. This summer I selected Looking for Lorraine because I am fascinated by Lorraine Hansberry and her life is now on full display thanks to the expertise and pristine research of Imani Perry. I recommend it for anyone who is interested in seeing how Blackness, socialism, communism, theater, writing, music, Chicago, New York City, housing laws, racism, womanhood, friendship, James Baldwin, Nina Simone, gender, and sexuality intersect and combine. Then this is the book for you. Before I share the words from some of the participants, I want to speak about Ms. Rosita.<br />
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Ms. Rosita joined us on Day 2 and she brought such an amazing breadth of history with her. She is a retired Philadelphia Public School teacher who was born and raised in Chicago. She attended the same high school with Lorraine but did not know her. We swapped stories about the city because, like her, my mother, grandmother, and aunt also attended nearby elementary schools. I saw my family in her stories. I saw myself. Chicago continues to live with me. Always a transplant.<br />
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We also had participants who remember seeing Raisin in the Sun at the movies when it first came out. The space was very inter-generational and it included fellow artists, educators, social workers, and retired educators. And this is why I am most grateful for the conversations and fast camaraderie. It was beautiful and necessary at a time when many of us are speaking in echo chambers with people who have similar backgrounds and beliefs.<br />
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Many of us only know Raisin in the Sun and truthfully, many of us only know the surface of it. When it opened on Broadway, the audience was filled with Black people. Black people! James Baldwin even quipped how many Black people came to see it. The construct of the play had no starring role, it was an ensemble piece. Each character and their moments were intricately connected and dependent on each other. She was the first Black female playwright to be on Broadway. Only because her mentor and friend Alice Childress another Black female playwright declined an earlier offer because she did not like the way the producers attempted to whiten her work. Her marriage and friendship with her husband was not traditional but he fiercely protected her memories and writings long after her death. And her friendships with James Baldwin and Nina Simone was a "Trinity" like no other. I truly believe they were both affected on a cellular level by her passing too soon. The book challenges and stretches our ideas of blackness and political action. It challenges our idea of blackness and class. But for me, it was a confirmation that art, writing, and political action are not separate entities. Like Raisin, they are also an ensemble predicated on the internal workings of an individual that provides illumination to how one truly sees themselves. One without the other, I dare say results in a fractured soul and spirit. And Lorraine's life was a testimony to that as she rode the ebbs and flows of joy, insecurity, confidence, passion, anger, and love.<br />
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<b>Final comments and reflections:</b><br />
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(Kevin) After our discussions, there were two passages from Looking for Lorraine that stood out to me:<br />
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"Hence, there was no necessary tension between art and politics, according to Lorraine. She believed, instead, that great art required one to say something about society" (108).<br />
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"Though she was an internationalist, and something of a Black nationalist, a Marxist, and a socialist, she was also deeply American. She understood that to be a thing of beauty and horror at once" (183).<br />
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I chose these two because I think they speak to the tension at the heart of Lorraine's art. When she expressed her disappointment or rage at the country, whether it was through her art or speaking out about political issues, it was coming from a place of profound disappointment rather than scorn: this was her country, and it owed her so much better.<br />
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Thanks for all of your work leading this group. I found myself learning so much from reading Perry's book, but even more from the way you lead discussions. My copy of the book is annotated to death with ideas for how to teach Raisin. So, thank you.<br />
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(Jody) Tamara, thanks for much for a great book group! Every summer I've thought about joining one of these groups, but this is actually the first time I did, and it was a wonderful experience. I loved the book, and found it readable and enjoyable, and also deep and complex, so there was plenty to talk about. I really appreciated the facilitation, which helped us get to key topics and also allowed for relevant diversions. What a treat to hear of the connections you, Rosita, and others had with the place and other aspects of the material we were reading about. I also loved the way people put additional materials into the chatbox, and the related materials you sent us. And I was amazed at how in just three sessions we developed such a great group dynamic and rich bodies of knowledge.<br />
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(Danina) I actually highlighted quite a bit in this book, but a statement that really stood out to me is on page 162.<br />
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It reads, "...Lorraine emphasized self-determination for Black people. She was neither interested in status nor seeing Black folks manipulated by elites, whether said elites be Black or white. She wanted to be led by the people."<br />
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This particular quote drew my attention because it sums up Lorraine's overall philosophy about activism. She also shows that leadership is built from the ground up and that even as leaders ascend, they should do so in a manner that is uncompromising of their integrity and humility.....good leaders always center the people. Here Lorraine also shows her commitment to activism and the spirit of selfless revolution for and by the people.<br />
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This Summer Reading Series allowed me to take away some great insights with regards to what leadership looks like, and how we can apply lessons learned during earlier civil rights struggles to today's mission. I appreciate the various perspectives that were brought to the table and the opportunity to reflect on the past, for guidance as we move into the future. Special thanks to Tamara and Angela for creating an environment that fostered engagement, critical analysis, and a respect for various points of view! I am already looking forward to Summer Reading next year!<br />
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(Valerie) Thank you again for another awesome facilitation of the book, Looking for Lorraine. I have been in several book clubs in my life and have yet to experience one like this. Your facilitation is on point and lends itself to a variety of perspectives from art, theatre/film, literature, history, culture, and the politics of our time. The recommended readings and articles shared related to the topic and themes covered in the book and made for a lively discussion.<br />
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I did not get a chance to read the book but the rich discussion among the participants made me feel like I had. This was a well-read group and tonight to have Ms. Rosita share her personal experience and connections with Lorraine topped things off for me. The group was also inclusive and respectful of one another's opinions. I felt as a black woman comfortable and unapologetic in the comments I made. Thanks to you and the group for this wonderful experience.<br />
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This is not a rehash of the history that we all know. So if you are seeking that just research the actual case and the briefs written famously by Justice Warren to defend its passing (which were very anti-black). This is an observation of a reality that very few of us speak about in public spaces.<br />
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The case itself was considered a "win" for the NAACP. But for Black educators in the south, it meant the loss of work and forced migration to northern cities that quickly placed them on the Colored teaching list. And resulted in long stints of unemployment. There was also no real practice of reciprocal integration. White students attending black schools and White patrons shopping at black-owned shops and businesses. In fact, integration led to a slow but steady decline in thriving black businesses with the exception of already thriving black towns or black communities. The only exception to this rule in regard to schooling was HBCUs. Even today non-black students are welcomed and nurtured in their spaces. Cannot say the same for PWIs.<br />
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This is because the idea of whiteness holds value over blackness. And one-way integration encouraged and solidified that idea. SO much so that even today predominately white spaces have higher housing values, more funds for public education, and are seen as having less crime. Poverty is seen as black, and with that comes lower housing values, fewer funds for public education, and increased incidents of crime. Despite the fact that white Americans account for more welfare recipients then Black people. And that white on white crime is just as prevalent as black on black incidents. And that we have several laws to protect against such discrimination. But even the Equal Opportunity Act benefits white women at a rate of 70% of court cases over BIPOC individuals.<br />
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This is why mentioning segregation as being a problem without context or historical nuance is dangerous and can result in anti-black sentiment. Poverty and a lack of access are symptoms of white supremacy, not Blackness. Seldom are the conversations about how vehemently white Americans protect their white spaces, white schools, and whiteness from everyone else. No one speaks on how all-white spaces are actually more toxic then any other affinity or single race space, mostly because even in Black spaces, whiteness makes an appearance. Especially when it comes to law enforcement and capitalist systems like banking. Even today despite the Housing Act of 1968, Black families are still turned down for mortgages at a higher rate than whites.<br />
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And when we use terms like grit or saving money and raising credit scores, we forget that racist financial institutions still offer higher interest rates to Black borrowers with high scores and low debt. Because Blackness is equated with debt and irresponsibility, despite the fact that much of this is caused by the lack of generational wealth that exists for Black families due to enslavement or if they are Black immigrants from other countries, the reparations that their countries paid to their colonizers renders many with little to no financial start.<br />
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I hope that this encourages you to research the inherent problems in one-way integration. So that we can actually create reciprocal integration, and stop blaming segregation for what is wrong. Or even better create an actual anti-racist system.<br />
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As Zora Neale Hurston wrote on her 60th birthday in a letter to the <i>Orlando Sentinel</i> about Brown v. Board of Education, "I regard the ruling of the US Supreme Court as insulting rather than honoring my race." As I age and study it closer, I concur.Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-2571979573141303652020-07-25T23:03:00.003-07:002020-07-26T06:48:49.921-07:00Why Black Lives still don't matter? 2020 EditionHere is the good news. The School District of Philadelphia officially endorsed and will support Black Lives Matter Week of Action - Philly, which is now a part of the National Black Lives Matter at School. The work that went into this becoming a reality should be applauded and celebrated. But when I heard it, my stomach instantly sank. Because I knew it was a symbolic gesture devoid of what it actually means to fully support Black Lives. I know that the School District of Philadelphia lacks the moral will to fully realize what it looks and feels like to make sure that Black Lives Matter. <br />
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Over 100 speakers were ready to speak at the Philadelphia School Board meeting this past Thursday. Many of them were rejecting the reopening plan. Many spoke to the dangers of placing students and staff in such uncertain conditions. Many highlighted what the district still has not done to remedy the current toxicity of the buildings that include unsafe levels of asbestos, unmaintained HVAC filters, poor cleanliness, rodents, roaches, a lack of AC in some spaces, and the overall nastiness that comes with older buildings and a lack of funding. They want to open so that millions of dollars worth of corporate contracts do not go unpaid or unfulfilled. Contracts that have little to do with improving school safety. Just look at the state of the sanitation workers, the water department, and other essential services in Philadelphia to see how COVID is way more serious then what is being reported or shared in the media, and many of them work outdoors.<br />
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Many also supported the ten demands written by the Racial Justice Organizing Committee for <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/10hvbsAbdGut5nBo-sPYdcpDEhKD3a7dqdxN42eVqCDA/edit?usp=sharing" target="_blank">Radical Education Transformation</a> which includes everything from anti-racist training for staff to the development of culturally responsive curriculum and everything in between. It is a ten-step plan that if followed could actually result in a better school district for everyone. But our history continues to show us that no one actually wants public education to work for everyone, just the chosen and often privileged few. Consider the "pandemic" pods already being advertised. <br />
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Many of the students that spoke continue to share the ongoing racist incidents that have been happening in Philly schools for a very long time, unchecked and without consequences. Students have suffered racist terrorism and trauma in their school buildings by the very educators who they should have been able to trust. And removing police from the school is just one step in the right direction, and yet we can't even agree on that without sanitizing them to "Safety Officers."<br />
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And let's chat briefly on why the current SDP Harassment Policy #248 may do little to nothing to protect future incidents of racial or sexual harassment. The policy was last updated in 2013. It has the SRC or School Reform Commission, which is now defunct, as the governing entity. There is no reference or inclusion of the Philadelphia Federation Contract Article 6, Sections C and D which provides a consequence but not detailed steps regarding when a union member takes part in harassment. It is only a few sentences, but at least it states one could be discharged. But no mention of how and why the assignment to the "rubber room" may or may not be an adequate measure. Especially when one has been sent several times for using racial slurs towards students, at the same school. But I digress. Policy #248 encourages teachers who observe these behaviors to report it, but there is no anonymous or protected reporting process outside of the form that is solely for the victim. And the School Board is not even referenced in the policy nor has it been updated to reflect the change, which means it is pretty much rendered toothless and null and void if it ever went to court. Policy #249 for bullying and cyberbullying is similar in that it also includes the SRC and not the school board, but at least it was updated in 2016. And policy #252 for LGTBQ+ students is new and robust, but like the others, there are no actual consequences when it is not followed, and it is often not followed.<br />
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Other union contracts in large cities like LA and Chicago have recently expanded the processes for educators that engage in harmful behaviors, and both include more protections for their union employees to fight harassment in the workplace. Some even include parenting boards like Local School Councils as conduits for input about professional conduct. Imagine that! Parents and the community being invited in as accountability partners. That sounds like Black Lives may matter a bit more there, not perfect, but definitely a move in the right direction. Chicago Public Schools till has police, ugh! We tried that here to uplift parent voices with School Advisory Boards (SACS), and then just like that. they had no power or pull whatsoever. The same will occur for Equity Boards, which are not only unpaid, but the language is so sanitized it might as well just be written in invisible ink.<br />
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These are just some of the examples of why Black Lives don't really matter to the leaders of the School District of Philadelphia (SDP). Over 70% of the students in the Philadelphia School District are Black and Latinx/Hispanic. And we are also living through a pandemic where Black and Latinx adults are dying or testing positive at an exponentially higher rate. (Blacks make up 13% of the population, but in most urban centers Blacks make up nearly 50% of the COVID-19 cases). Even Superintendent Hite mentioned racial justice as a reason for why our students benefit more from a face to face interaction. True! But, as usual, the idea and hue of racial justice are offered up to defend something that is actually placing BIPOC students and staff in danger. <br />
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We need to call all of these inequities what they have always been, a civil rights issue, or even more accurate, a state of educational apartheid.<br />
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Between the marches, actions, rallies, and protests that have been occurring across the City of Philadelphia and across the country, I believe America is ready for yet another reckoning. I said another because we have been here before. We have seen this anger and push back each time that Black people in the words of the Fannie Lou Hamer "Get sick and tired of being sick and tired." When they get exhausted of death and all that racism brings to their doorstep each and every day.Today is different because there are no clear leaders, which makes everyone nervous. No one to murder or maim in order to silence the masses. The students, organizers, educators, and protesters are great examples of this. Each day a new voice is uplifted and another wrong is thrown into the light. SO much so that none of us can sit back any longer and pretend as if bullshit isn't actually bullshit. <br />
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Each time is marked with an uprising. The murder of Emmett Till in 1955. The student walkout and march of 1967. The MOVE bombing of 1972. The murder of Trayvon Martin 2012. Ferguson in 2014. Black Lives Matter Week of Action 2017. Police Free Schools 2020. No PILOTS. Black educators and students speaking out about racism in their schools. Each time there is an uprising, voices screaming, "No More!" And a city trying to cash a check that has been returned one too many times marked "insufficient funds."<br />
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It is time to connect the dots and stop telling half histories of how and why we got here. It is time to say aloud that no one is stopping or going anywhere until we see big, sustainable changes. NO more optical gestures of goodwill laced with white guilt. NO more placing our children in the eye of the storm praying that they will be okay. NO more ignoring the actual problems by always offering up band-aids and watered down antiseptic. And finally admit that it is un-American to be generous, kind, and anti-racist. America has yet to achieve a new personality, and today she continues to live out her racist legacy violently and with purpose because that's the image she was created in. My hope is that I live to see that day. Unlike Baldwin, King, X, Parks, Baker, Hurston, Angelou, and Morrison who spoke and wrote about that day, but also died waiting. I hold my breath for the day that America is un-American. We fight so that our children can stop waiting and finally breathe air filled with liberation and freedom. Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-37042167329993090732020-04-19T05:43:00.001-07:002020-04-20T09:18:55.423-07:00After COVIDToday we are in the midst of a national and global pandemic that we have never seen at this scale. It has highlighted constitutional law, which provides states local control with federal oversight. Checks and balances. We have also received lots of myths and dangerous information that can lead to more harm or simply embolden us to not pay attention to the CDC and WHO. For the last month, most of America has been on a home quarantine, practicing social distancing, and safety precautions that include hand washing, protective masks, and limited public interaction.<br />
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So I ask today, who will we be after COVID? What will be? And how will history remember this pandemic?<br />
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In the midst of talks regarding states reopening by May 1. The pros and the cons of that. There is an opportunity for us to do what’s right for all of us or just some of us. There is an opportunity to put people before profits and creature comforts. There is an opportunity to create a new normal that doesn’t ignore our most vulnerable citizens. An opportunity to actually develop a public health policy that is prepared for future pandemics because let’s face it, there will be another.<br />
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Unfortunately, many of our states including the President, want to quickly reopen. They say that they are preparing for a new normal but in reality they are running to the same normal disguised as “doing something different.” I understand that small businesses are losing money and some may never see the other side of this. The bailouts are not effective nor sustainable. Unemployment is crashing due to antiquated technology and lack of preparedness. And humans need and desire human contact. But you know what, none of this matters if we get this wrong and more of us get sick or even worse, die.<br />
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740,746 confirmed cases, 39,158 deaths, and 66,676 recovered just in the US. The virus makes the schedule according to Dr. Fauci. According to virology, this is how viruses function.<br />
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Not one state that has started the process of reopening has created a plan. A universal health and safety plan that includes access to testing, access to antibody testing (which is still being perfected in a lab), and a universal cleaning plan for all businesses from stores, to schools, rec centers, to movie theaters, to production sets, to office spaces, and everything in between, Nothing. No public health plan to avoid or face future pandemics. Nothing. No perfected test that the CDC and FDA approve with high marks. Nope. No vaccine. No cure. Some jobs have already created paperwork stating that if you come to work in a hotspot, you are coming at your own risk and there will be no company liability for your health. But please come and work anyway. Undocumented people have not received ANYTHING close to a plan or a solution. And there are no procedures in place to protect them at “work.” Prison safety has been mentioned but nothing more. Positive tests are already being seen in some food production plants like, Smithfield sausage, and in some markets, like Whole Foods.<br />
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And let’s not forget that we still are not sure how accurate the numbers are because we do not have enough tests, nor do we have unlimited access to the chemicals to make more. Most countries had triple the testing by this timeline when the pandemic hit them. That requires a better international relationship with China. Add that to the list of things that need to be done before we reopen.<br />
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We are not ready. We need a universal solution, a multi-pronged strategy that takes into account all of us not just those who are losing money. This is not fear, this is common sense. When you are faced with a problem, you first assess it, and then you start brainstorming possible strategies, then you troubleshoot, and finally either select a solution or you succumb to the problem.<br />
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Do we want to succumb or do we want to survive and make sure that our future selves do better than we are actually doing?Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-25479061459871868872020-02-19T17:17:00.000-08:002020-02-19T17:19:49.597-08:00The Power of "The Photograph"<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I am convinced that movie critics who are often white, do not get The Photograph and they may never get it so please do not let it keep you from seeing it. This movie is unapologetic Black Love, Black Joy, and Blackness. From the soundtrack that features Al Green to Luther Vandross, you know the songs that many of us used to have on a mixtape. Or if you are younger, the songs that you were probably conceived to during senior prom or college. Why does Kendrick make us feel guilty? Drake makes us feel like he is our cousin? And we just worry about Kanye...since his mom died.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">These memorable moments are just the surface. This is a story that I have been waiting to see my entire life. I have seen it in my actual life and in the lives of my melanated friends, but never onscreen or onstage. I have never seen a mother show her love for her daughter by being, "An arc of a woman." I have never seen a Black woman be complex in her need, her wants, her desires, and her art while raising a child. THIS is why we should all be clamoring to see this film. And we should take everyone with us to share in this journey.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The critics say the story is "disconnected" or that the leads "have no chemistry." All untrue. The story is simply not a linear one. It is one connected by photographs, laughter, music, and silent moments. Some of the details are simply presented through the mouths of children and the physical beauty of Louisiana and New York City. And it's a Black story told through the lens of Blackness and Black feminine nuances. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">During the movie, I cried. Not because it made me sad or melancholy, but because it made me remember when a love like that was in my own life. It reminded me that we are not all "broken" or "waiting to be seen." It reminded me of me and Maya. In fact, there is a photo in the film that is a replica of one I took with Maya right before I left Chicago to move to NYC, uncanny. This story is not only about intimate love but it is also about the first love many of us ever experienced, which is the love from our mothers. Some of that love is incomplete due to us, as daughters and sons, not always seeing our mothers as full human beings outside of motherhood. Or the flaws that make us who we are. And how a mother's flaws or mistakes can make their children shine like diamonds or fall into the abyss until they reach adulthood and are able to reflect back. Imagine what that means. Imagine how that informs love for each of us. Especially in a world that is constantly telling us that love is out of reach or impossible. </span><br />
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<i>If this world were mine, I'd place at your feet<br />All that I own; you've been so good to me<br />If this world were mine<br />I'd give you the flowers, the birds and the bees<br />For with your love inside me, that would be all I need<br />If this world were mine<br />I'd give you anything</i><br />
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More films like these need to be made and produced for us and by us. Written with our full Black lives, bodies, minds, passions, and soul in mind. So go grab you a little loveTamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-20777406855861344932020-01-05T20:03:00.003-08:002020-01-05T20:03:58.768-08:00Why be Antiracist <div dir="ltr" id="docs-internal-guid-37d088c6-7fff-59db-dce4-68cb5d1777b9" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Why be an Antiracist in the classroom? Because it matters to ALL children that we actively work on our biases and our conscious of them and especially how they materialize in our work with children. But it’s hard work and it’s often masked in a watered down diversity training or something less effective. There are some excellent trainings and trainers but they are not consistently available to all schools and regions. And while we are trying to figure it out, Black and Brown children are screaming for help.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">In the words of Jamilah Pitts, “We may be uncomfortable talking about race, but we can no longer afford to be silent. We have chosen a profession that—like parenting—requires us to put our comforts second to those of children.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">We also can no longer sidestep or carefully confront it. For many of us that are actually old enough we have seen history repeat itself time and time again. For those that have been fighting for many years, the exhaustion of the status quo and the few spikes of change are not enough. Not to mention the loopholes that exist in all the Civil Rights Laws, that are constantly taken advantage of to keep us at the status quo. In order for us to make change, we must uplift those at the very bottom and recognize that the laws and policies that keep them there are inherently racist. And every oppressive act is a symptom of white supremacy. In fact, say it three times in a row just in case you still think it’s just classism.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">None of us can no longer afford to be a neutral non-racist. We must be anti-racist, which implies action. Action to dismantle race as a social construct and all of the protections it provides for those in power. Yep! Newsflash! You have to be uncomfortable in order to transform a society. Very uncomfortable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Right now in cities like Philadelphia, Chicago and New York City there are less than 30% of Black Educators working with majority Black and Latinx students in highly segregated and zero equity school environments that are further divided by school choice and magnets. Despite the thousands of studies that confirm that students being taught by teachers who look like them increase their academic achievement, and that the presence of Black teachers increases academic achievement for all students regardless of race and ethnicity. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Anti racism policies also include indigenous populations and immigration protections, versus jailing policies. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Now imagine what could happen if all teachers undertook a complete Antiracist Training and continue to build knowledge and understanding of race and gender studies. There may be a shift and we may stop hearing teachers call students the N word or continue to have a lack of understanding for our LGTBQ + students. Imagine if we didn’t find Black Women threatening or even worse as disciplinarians. And we stopped feeling threatened by Black boys and girls. We all had a deep understanding of Ethnic, Black, and Latinx Studies. This all happens when you are dedicated to an Antiracist approach. Or more importantly, being an actual educator committed to checking their implicit biases. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As if your life depended on it. </span></div>
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Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-23476034121959808992020-01-05T18:43:00.000-08:002020-01-05T18:52:41.855-08:00Happy 2020...Food for thought<div dir="ltr" id="docs-internal-guid-ac5a75ac-7fff-894e-a633-a229d567fc29" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">This is not my typical end of the year reflection, nor is it my typical “my goals and aspirations list” either. It is simply a statement that I believe needs to be read by somebody. Especially because I know someone needs to hear this. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Lately, it has become difficult to breathe. Difficult to process clarity. And I have started to realize that it is because I let too many people in to my emotional and spiritual vibrations due to my work and kindness, but lately I have not downloaded or dumped all of the trash. And my lesson for 2020 is to be better about cleaning my soul and spirit. This also includes being honest in the moment and not holding onto things to fester. Or even better not worrying or giving time to problems that are actually not even mine.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Second, I need to make sure that I maintain my positive energy with consistent self-care. This includes me taking care of me, which I also forgot about in 2019. So make sure that you take care of your body, mind, and soul. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Next, the world is chock full of selfish destructive assholes who are often filled with jealous and self hate. So they disguise themselves as co-conspirators and allies, and wreck havoc on your life and more importantly your work. So I am saying here that I know who you are and I am ignoring you on purpose. Thanks.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I am also thankful for being heard when I asked for help. This is a reminder that we should never silence our pain nor should we pretend that it will simply go away. It is okay to ask your village for help. And for you to pay it forward and be a help to others. It is also a reminder that I never need to hold onto assholes when I have so many beautiful authentic friends that I love and adore. Thank you for the constant love and hugs. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">My daughter continues to remind me that each lesson that I just mentioned above are the same ones I taught her. And only these steps towards my sanity will help me breathe again. </span></div>
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<br style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" />Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-75174138978926368092019-09-18T18:07:00.004-07:002019-09-18T18:07:59.938-07:00Join or Not (AEA vs SAG-AFTRA)There are many benefits to being a member of Actors Equity or Screen Actors Guild. But, if you join to soon, you may quickly find yourself not working. What are the signs that you are ready to join either one? What are the differences between the two? How will it be different from being non-union?<br />
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<b><u>Actors Equity Association (AEA)</u></b><br />
The union for professional actors and stage managers that work in live theatre. They negotiate minimum wages and the ability to negotiate, along with health and pension plans. More information about becoming a member can be found <a href="https://actorsequity.org/" target="_blank">here</a>.<br />
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This union now brings together two great American labor unions: Screen Actors Guild and the American Federation of Television and Radio Artists. It is a union that represents actors, announcers, broadcast journalists, dancers, DJs, news writers, news editors, program hosts, puppeteers, recording artists, singers, stunt performers, voice-over artists, and other media professionals. More information about becoming a member can be found <a href="https://www.sagaftra.org/about">here.</a><br />
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<li>More credits at union theatres vs. non-union ones (great roles!)</li>
<li>More major roles than ensemble (unless you are a dancer or a specialty dancer)</li>
<li>Positive relationshipa (they hire you back) with a variety (more than 3) of professional regional theatres <a href="http://lort.org/">(LORT - League of Regional Theatres) </a></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";">Have earned a variety of credits beyond the theatre (excluding understudy) that gave you your EMC card</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Definitely know without a doubt your type and what YOU would play in media</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Have a reel that includes showcase or unique roles from student films, indies, or web series</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">If you have the above in place, then you can take advantage of background work as a pathway to join</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Starting to get auditions for union feature films, TV, voice-overs, and commercials on your own</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Agent or manager are starting to submit you for union projects and you are getting callbacks</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Are SAG-AFTRA eligible </span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Selected to be a stand-in for a major character in an episodic or for a major actor</span></span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">More pay per project</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Residual payments for most SAG-AFTRA projects</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "avenir next w01";"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.4px;">Eligibility for pension and health benefits </span></span></li>
<li>In general, you earn one year of vesting service for each calendar year in which you worked at least two weeks in covered employment.You can become vested with 5 or 10 years of vesting service, depending on when that vested service occurred. If you are vested and become totally and permanently disabled, you may qualify for a Disability Pension (AEA).</li>
<li>Protections from unsafe working conditions</li>
<li>Eligibility for unemployment benefits</li>
<li>Legal services</li>
<li>Guaranteed minimum pay (option to negotiate most contracts unless All Favored Nations) (AEA)</li>
<li>Housing and travel for most contracts</li>
<li>Will more likely be considered for TV, film , commercials, and voice-overs by being a member of SAG-AFTRA then if you are non-union</li>
<li>Membership dues are tax-deductible</li>
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There are many working actors who perform and never join either union, but I do believe if your goal is to be a professional working actor who can live off your earnings, you must consider the pros and cons. It is also important to not join to soon to avoid the pitfalls that often come with the transition. And many of those come with not having enough credits, or enough roles, or poor relationships with union theaters, or even worst not ready to compete with other veteran union members. This information was shared with me when I was making my decision and I didn't have to take a special class. I just needed the correct information and guidance before taking the leap. </div>
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Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-37959974852650549192019-02-16T19:49:00.000-08:002019-02-16T19:49:14.600-08:00What does it mean to organize?Each year that I organize and work towards good in the greater world, I realize some new things and some old. The old information is that individuals who are truly inspirational organizers are simply about the work being done and the purpose being met. They gather people around them who are also about the work and the same purpose being met because they know that everyone is important and that every job no matter how small should be recognized and appreciated. True organizers also trust everyone who works with them without the need to micro manage or to question their purpose or plan. They also do not seek the limelight or to be noticed because at their core the work and purpose is what drives them.The new things that I learn each year are not so positive. These not so nice lessons are usually:<div>
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<li>Some mistake activism for organizing</li>
<li>Gaining momentum is always a game of chess and not checkers</li>
<li>Being an organizer is more than throwing ideas and suggestions into the ether</li>
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I am writing this in the late hours because once again it has come to my attention after a very successful week of inspiration centered on Black Lives and Black Students and Solutions for Black Families and Communities, that there is always a person or a group of people who will try and destroy that light. And I am here to say No to all of that, and miss me with your questions and conjecture. I work and live and breathe beyond the hashtag. Each day that I breathe, I move closer to doing what needs to be done and never opting for what is simply convenient. </div>
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I have been organizing for Black Lives since I was in high school. I remember going toe to toe with the establishment who constantly told me that I was not important or of value. And you know what, they soon learned a valuable lesson. I can gather a small army and fight the good fight where we are all victors at the end. And you will NEVER not SEE me. </div>
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That same energy to organize and bring the dark to the light followed me to college and into my adult life. I have always known that my voice and my energy had the power to move mountains and to make a way out of no way. But, I believe that because I have never sought out the limelight that often my purpose and work is doubted. Or even worse, the greater work from the other organizers that gather around me and give me strength is questioned and doubted. Today is the day that I am telling you, No More. </div>
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I stand on the strength of Assata, the voice of Nina, the work ethic of Ella, the perseverance of Rosa, the truth of Fannie and the radical energy of James. These folks were often silenced and questioned and cornered. And yet, their work and purpose continued and benefit EVERYONE. Including those who questioned the loudest. If you don't believe that I am the baddest blackest and most prolific organizer in this life and the next, you better ask somebody. Even better, look at the breath of the work, who supports the work, and why you should simply look on and simply say THANK YOU. Instead of trying to shower darkness on my joy. </div>
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Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-70669676041573174912019-01-12T07:48:00.003-08:002019-01-13T20:20:04.083-08:00Why Black Lives STILL MatterIn 2013 after George Zimmerman was acquitted for the murder of Trayvon Martin a hashtag erupted into a movement. Alica Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tomati created #BlackLivesMatter. A way for local organizers to pull together and continue the fight for Black lives. Because let's face it, we our under attack. And this attack has not ceased since we were kidnapped and brought by force to this country. In fact, the attack on brown and black bodies has been a global issue since ever. It is for this reason that we must continue to unearth the truth and share it without making it clean or easier to digest.<br />
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Philadelphia and many cities around the country are planning the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/BLMPhlED/?epa=SEARCH_BOX" target="_blank">National Black Lives Matter Week of Action in Schools</a>. And I sit here and wonder if it is enough. Have we fully actualized the 13 guiding principles of this movement? Principles like Diversity, Loving Engagement, Collective Value, Queer and Trans Affirming, Black Families, Black Women and more? Have we? The answer is a resounding NO.<br />
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Just in 2014, Governor Snyder of Michigan gave the okay to switch Flint's water source from Lake Huron, a natural glacial fresh water source, to the Flint River, a chemical dumpsite. Since then over 10,000 children have been exposed to levels of lead far above 3.5 (the safe level) and many adults have died from Legionnaire disease. Lead is irreversible and never leaves the system. It alters a person's DNA. Mothers that have been exposed to high levels of lead will see it in their grandchildren. America did that. But, General Motors (GM) complained that the Flint River ruined their parts and they got switched back to Lake Huron. The residents did not. So no Black Lives still don't matter.<br />
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Laquan McDonald, who was shot 16 times by a Chicago Police Officer, became part of one of the most recent cover ups that reached all the way to the Mayor, Rahm Emanuel. Laquan's mother who had not seen her child since he was 3 received a large sum of money from the City of Chicago for her child's death. America did that. Hush money. The election came and went and Rahm was re-elected and then the video was released. Showing the murder and Laquan's dead body on the ground. One of many Black males who are unarmed and murdered by police each and every day in urban centers across the country. No one is ever arrested. No one is ever held accountable. It happens so often it is starting to not make the news. Vigils and protests are held by mothers, friends, and the community and Black Lives still don't matter.<br />
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In 1999, the Transgender Day of Remembrance was founded by Gwendolyn Ann Smith and in 2010 became a national cause. In 2017, twenty-nine trans-gendered individuals were murdered and in 2018 the number was twenty-two. 82% of these murdered are Trans-women of Color. Their murders are poorly investigated and incorrectly documented because they do not matter. They are silenced forever and no one is brought to justice. Why? Because Black Lives still don't matter.<br />
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#metoo movement started by Tarana Burke, a black woman, was a necessary light to shine on sexual assault and the victimization of women. In Hollywood, it has been a tipping point, Yet, if the women are poor, marginalized, Black or Brown then the #metoo movement is not for them. That could not be further from the truth. In fact, the rape of Black women goes back further than most history books even mention. The rape and murder of Black women has been #forever. The lack of safety for Black girls and women has been #forever and it continues #today. The reason that Oprah Winfrey mentioned Recy Taylor in her acceptance speech last year is because that truth continues to be hidden in plain sight. Rosa Parks being a sexual assault investigator for the NAACP is THE work that she should be known for. In fact the bus boycott was won on the backs and bodies of Black women (over 80% of bus riders at the time were Black women). Billy clubs hit Black women on their backs and stomachs leaving many of them unable to have children or simply damaged. And today untested rape kits are at an increased rate for poor, indigenous, Black, Brown or marginalized women. Why? Because Black Lives still don't matter.<br />
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So as we prepare our cities to remember and commemorate the<a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1tIKArLoVt7uIHSdgXpb95dhguZaciHyPwcgwaNiuAAU/edit" target="_blank"> Black Lives Matter Week of Action in Schools</a> remember the words of Audre Lorde, "Revolution is not a one-time event and The master's tools will never dismantle the master's house." This work is an every day, every hour kind of work. It must be a part of your pores and envelop your spirit in order for a small change to manifest. Especially because the powers that are not even in the majority have a powerful machine and a dedicated intention to the very destruction of Black lives. Once that becomes clear, then we can stop with the business of simply rallying around a cause for 7 days a year, or on the King Holiday. We can educate our youth and our community by any means necessary and make sure that their eyes are wide open for the battle that has been waging in plain site for #forever. And maybe just maybe, we can stop asking for Black Lives to Matter. And finally live out a destiny that is not mired in BS, denial or petty liberal diatribes. Remember if you are not a part of the work then you are a part of the problem.<br />
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<br />Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-34129265882592625292019-01-06T20:56:00.001-08:002019-01-06T20:56:15.511-08:00Hello 2019Each year I look back and reflect on what the year has brought me in terms of lessons. What new relationships have been developed and which ones have perished or simply withered away. My growth as an individual, a mother, an artist, and more. How many of my plans actually came to fruition and which ones have flourished beyond my wildest dreams.<br />
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As you move forward in purposeful creativity, it is vital that you recognize that your gifts are to be developed and nurtured. If you want more joy in your life, then you must work towards that. If you want more sanity in your life, you must be committed to that. If you want to feel more love and physically feel healthier, that is only possible through consistent and persistent work.<br />
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We live in a society that practices and celebrates mediocrity. And often when we want more we are pushed back or ridiculed. I say, continue to push forward and thrive for the beauty in excellence. Take care that your work means something. And that will always bring you closer to a better you. Stop measuring your worth against the other person. Measure it against your own personal joy.<br />
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Remember that fear is a constant companion and it can propel you on your journey as opposed to making you stop in your tracks. At the end of each year, I debate whether I am on the right path, should I choose something more dependable, and blah blah blah. This is usually followed by a shock to my financials or some other devastation. And usually after a few days of feeling yucky, I realize that I would not have it any other way. The life that I continue to choose over and over again, makes me truly understand what it means to live and breathe a creative life. And for that I will always be grateful.<br />
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The year started with a TV co-star role and ended with a commercial and lots of great projects in between. And to that I say thank you.<br />
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<br />Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-88737848424656481552018-12-29T10:14:00.003-08:002018-12-29T10:14:45.266-08:00Fastweb is a setupI have been awakened twice today, once at 630 am and again just a few moments ago. Both times, there was something pushing me out of bed. The first time, I was literally thinking about how much each college Maya got accepted to wants from me. I have been waking up to that for the last month. The second time, I was pushed to write. Write something about it. As if that would make it all better, or even easier. And I know that it won't. But it may me the answer to someone else who reads this. So here I am. Awake, exhausted, and frankly having no clue as to what comes next.<br />
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There are a few of us that can plan for college and create a financial cushion for ourselves and our families. And then there is everybody else. So what I will say is that links like Fastweb and Scholly are loaded with scholarship contests as opposed to simply laid out applications. The link will often take you to another scholarship or corporate link that wants to sell you something as opposed to actually getting you money. Ads begin to overflow your timeline with stories of we give millions of dollars each year. Or even worse, colleges send your child info about additional monies but the deadline is in two days. Yep, two days! This is different, very different than it was even five years ago. It is an arduous process with one goal in mind. Utter and complete failure.<br />
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So I wake up. I wake Maya up. And we get started. She writes and edits and writes some more. She eats and drinks and then goes back to writing and answering more questions. She emails teachers and I email her counselor so we can get some additional information. Each time, I think, how many parents actually know anything about this? Even worse, what do our children know about it? Because I am telling you, the search engine for scholarships is a treacherous path. Fastweb gets money from all colleges, and other search links get other kickbacks from corporate entities. All geared towards you clicking and not getting very much information. Remember when you went to the counselor's office and there were actual scholarships to apply for? I only know of one school making that happen and thank goodness I am friends with their counselor or else Maya would still have limited access.<br />
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But there is hope. And the hope is with us. Once you receive any actual Intel, please share it with other students and parents. And I must say, most of the relevant data has come from word of mouth as opposed to Google and definitely not Fastweb. Contact the national offices of all Black sororities and fraternities or else you may never find anything online because they also have some funds to give. Literally go to the United Negro College Fund and the NAACP page, and find some actual listings, which also include funds for LGTBQ teens and more.<br />
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This saddens me because I raised my daughter to be self-sufficient and to seek information. But, I am truly happy that she does not have to do this alone. So to everyone who said, I let my child find it on their own, well I am here to tell you that time has left and adults are needed. Because this process will make you send a "No Thank you" to all the acceptances and simply give up. And many of our communities do not provide access to this assistance, which is unfortunate. So if you are a parent of child who is interested in some information, do not hesitate to ask because I will definitely offer a helping hand or at least point you in the right direction.<br />
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Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-19315494628856750942018-11-29T09:43:00.001-08:002018-11-29T09:43:24.938-08:00Despite NOMy daughter, Maya, is in her last year of high school. She has completed all of her college applications and so far has received acceptance letters for 4. As happy and proud as I am each time she receives a YES, I am reminded at how often she received a NO. And I often wonder if I was a parent who believed the system and the tests, and lowered my expectations for her, where would she be? What would be her trajectory if NO had taken control?<br />
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When Maya was 2 years old she was diagnosed with a severe receptive and expressive disorder, and speech therapy was prescribed, twice a week. At the time of her birth, I was on public assistance which meant Maya was placed under a medical microscope. A team of specialists entered my home and determined that she needed speech, but that there may be more issues down the line in regard to attention deficit or more. I decided to let the speech therapy happen but we continued to keep her at home instead of daycare, and that was the best decision for her.<br />
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Later, in a daycare setting me and my mother observed children use my daughter as a scapegoat because of her limited ability to speak for herself for anything and everything while the caretakers were in the other room. We immediately pulled her out. This was the start of Maya being silenced. When we relocated to Philadelphia, I had no idea where I should send her to school, so since I went to a Catholic school in Chicago I chose Holy Cross in My Airy. She left for Kindergarten with a huge smile on her face, but I watched her smile eventually fade as the days and months continued. She had a highly ineffective, new teacher. Maya began to act out but when she went to after care, which was was ran by three older women, she was great and more importantly she was loved. I truly believe we only survived that school because of the amazing after care program and the dance classes at Allen's Lane Art Center.<br />
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After applying for Green Street Friends and receiving a NO from them (a very not kind rejection), I soon realized I had to start teaching again in order to check out a school as a spy and not a parent. So I started subbing at a few schools, and stumbled across Khepera Charter School. So I sent Maya there for first grade. Her teacher was amazing. Very nurturing and provided Maya some confidence in school, but more importantly she truly cared for Maya. She would let her draw during class, which always calmed her. I breathed a sigh of relief. Until she reached 4th grade and then, the bullying escalated from students and teachers alike, and despite my best efforts, I knew that it was time to move on.<br />
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During this entire time, Maya continued with speech therapy in Chicago and Philadelphia. Often the schools provided the most mediocre services, which is why I am thankful to Theraplay in Horsham for being a consistent service for her. And even more thankful that my insurance covered it. They are one of the reasons that she started to discover her voice. A reality is that if you are not your child’s advocate especially if they have an IEP, then they will be lost to the cracks of bureaucracy.<br />
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Then after more research, I found the gem of Lingelbach Elementary. Here is where Maya had her first black male teacher in the 5th grade. And let me just say, it was here that she finally found another adult who truly cared for her. So by this time Maya only had a positive school experience with the after care staff in Kindergarten, her first grade teacher, her dance instructor, and now Mr. Tolbert. Let me just say the special education services at Lingelbach blended perfectly with her outside services. And she came leaps and bounds in terms of her academic achievement, and her participation in Dragonboats made her love the water even more. I felt welcome as a parent. Now the bullying continued, but she now had adults who believed her instead of blaming her.<br />
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So it was recommended that she apply for two programs, Steppingstone and A Better Chance (ABC). Both provide a pathway for minority student from Grade 7 through college. I had actually done some grant writing for one of the organizations so I felt confident that one would prove to be a great fit for Maya. This is during the frenzy of standardized testing, which were always telling Maya NO because she was below basic, or basic. But, these programs claimed to not care about that. We went with excellent teacher recommendations. The first program interviewed me and Maya, separately. After consideration, she received a NO.<br />
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For ABC, all prospective students must sit for a test. Since Maya had an IEP since Kindergarten, she had never been timed for any exam. When I called to register her, I mentioned that and asked for accommodations, and I was told that none would be given. So I started to prep her for what was to come. And then we traveled to Washington DC for her to take the first available exam. The first thing I noticed, is that I was sitting in a room of Black parents, and the room was teeming with hope and desperation. Because many of us believe that we have to compete for our children to have a chance. And that is simply ludicrous but a painful reality. Needless to say, after all of that, Maya received another NO. I always thought it was odd that a test precedes you actually getting to know the child and the families, but I digress.<br />
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So once these letters came, I quickly realized I needed a place for Maya to continue to grow for 8th grade and beyond or else. She was starting to read The Color Purple and The Hobbit. Her 5th - 7th grade teachers truly nurtured critical thinking and her curiosity. But, she needed more. So I had to get creative. I started meeting with principals at special admission schools in Philadelphia. Because lets face it, my child is more than just a score but I knew I would have to build a case in a system that loves its flawed test scores. And then Hill Freedman became a possibility, mostly because I had covered a few stories there as a journalist. Once again, my work allows me a unique inside look. After a few conversations and completing the application process, a spot opened up in 8th grade, and we said YES.<br />
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Her love for reading continued to flourish. We went to the library each week from K thru 8th grade. And now she simply goes on her own and is never without two or three books. Art has always been a constant, whether it’s visual, music or dance. This was supported by outside programs at Fleischer and Settlement School of Music. Now, her mind and spirit are being nurtured in this safe environment. I will add that the bullying stopped around 7th grade because Maya decided that it was okay to be exactly who she was no matter what people said. And this was only possible because we finally found adults at the school who supported this journey and made her feel safe.<br />
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Now many of these rejections, Maya was shielded from. But, what if I believed every negative thing that was ever shared with me about my child. "She doesn't play well with others. She makes weird noises. She is fat. Why does she always draw in that notebook? Her scores are so low that she may be mentally handicapped." And this is just a sample. This blog is for everyone and every institution that said NO. And it is especially for any person or parent who has been told NO.<br />
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Today, Maya Simone Anderson is a senior in high school. She has 4.0 GPA at an IB school and ranks 3/135. Her writing has garnered her awards from the NAACP and Honorable mention from Scholastic. Her love for others, especially her teachers, came to the attention of NPR who did an interview with her about giving back. She has earned the 2nd highest award in Girl Scouts, the Silver Award, and she is still a member. This is just a sample of what she has already done. And watch out world because she is just getting started. But, I wonder what if she had a different mother, a different family, or a different support system? I know what it would look like because I have seen it in my classrooms and with my clients, she would be lost and relegated to the sidelines of defeat. She would have no voice. And she may have become a bully herself since the people in charge kept telling her, "It's a phase and maybe if you acted different they would treat you different." Since I called bullshit where I saw it and navigated the terrain so that she could have chance, all of those NOs did not defeat my child.<br />
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So remember YOU are ready despite NO. Remember that your children cannot overcome obstacles alone. One's ability to ask for help which makes the difference between success and failure starts with them being able to count on family first. There are many outside art programs that provide no money or offer scholarships so never let that be a barrier. And, lastly, remember that you are more than a test score, an evaluation, or an opinion. You are the epitome and power of YES.<br />
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<br />Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-31837794060954711692018-11-16T08:04:00.001-08:002018-11-16T08:10:05.970-08:00Who you really mad at?While getting my hair cut the other day, I overheard a conversation. A guy believed his current girlfriend was cheating on him. Despite the fact that he doesn’t like labels anyway. And he is usually the side piece for a few women. He turned over a new leaf. He is now faithful and open about his emotions. But he is also mad that she doesn’t recognize that and appreciate all that he does for her. But he just wants her to be honest. Then it ended with him mentioning karma for all that he has done in the past. And he is mad about all of this. But, who is he really mad at?<br />
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Relationships, whether friendships, friends with benefits or actual serious partnerships, can be difficult. Mostly because we get mad about not making a decision. When you are faced with strife in a relationship often we let anger simmer because we never state to our partner or ourselves the truth about our actual feelings. If something is stressful outside of said relationship, that can result in horizontal anger. Meaning you take it out on someone because you can’t face the demon at work or wherever. So I ask again, who are you mad at?<br />
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Communication and honesty should not be a struggle. It should be simple, but it is not. Especially in the world of text messages and social media. No one speaks directly to anyone, they simply post a passive aggressive message on FB or even worse send a litany of text messages. All bad. Face to face is always best. Or walk away in silence. And trust me you will feel better for it.<br />
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There is always a good reason to be mad. There is also always a reason to be happy. There is a time to fight, a time to stay, and a time to walk away. You must choose or else you will make yourself crazy. If you are circling the drain of doubt and questions. Find the answers and then make a decision. But, don’t wallow in anger. Don’t search a person’s phone for evidence. Don’t jump out of the bushes. Don’t avoid it altogether by simply making the situation worse. Don't compare them to every other deadbeat you have dated. Just stop and make a decision. For you and your mental and emotional health. Because let’s face it, the only person we can ever control is ourselves.<br />
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Oh yeah, and since he asked. My advice to the guy in the barbershop was that maybe the lesson is that he is actually capable of caring for someone, being emotionally open, and more than a side piece. And either you believe her or you don’t. Simple. And your decision.Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6594451893420911218.post-54540437813247307462018-11-10T13:49:00.001-08:002018-11-10T13:49:29.261-08:00Are you a real actor?This question along with, When you get your big break, make my ass hurt. It truly makes me want to slap the taste out of someone’s mouth. But more than that it’s disrespectful and rimmed with a level of ignorance. There are many levels to working in this business. You can be famous. You can have a list of co-star one liners or a string of regional Theatre credits. You can be on Broadway. You can be a commercial principle or background. You can be a stand in for a series. And the star of your own YouTube channel or web series. All of these make you a working, hustling artist.<br />
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So the next time someone tries to shoot you down because they simply do not get it or even worse they are jealous because they haven’t pursued their own dreams. Or even worse, they stopped believing in them altogether. Simply say, yes, I am a working actor who is grateful for all of my wins and opportunities. And most of all I am grateful that I will never give up. And then turn on your heel and let them watch you swagger off into the sunset.<br />
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This life is not for the meek. And it takes a level of commitment that most commoners can never comprehend. In a time where we are mired in BS, hate, and fear, there is no better time to claim what you want your life to look like. If not you, who? And if not now, when?Tamara Della Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16632545997779262904noreply@blogger.com0