Assumptions are a bitch!

Assumptions are rampant in life and they are even more visceral and intrusive in the acting/performing business. Yes! Assumptions are a bitch!The public, casting directors, producers, and many others make assumptions about us based on size, hair type, complexion, body type, gender, and ethnicity. All of this judgement occurs before you even speak. The minute you enter the audition space or your head shot is being viewed  all of these assumptions are already present ready to attack your spirit if you let it.

Look at what just happened in social media around the Oscars. Negative comments about Gabourey Sidibe regarding her size and appearance swirled on FB and Twitter. It saddened me to the core that the amazing accomplishments of this extraordinary actress were not the focus of the conversation or were barely mentioned. Very similar to the tail spin around Gabby Douglas's hair. So here is a word of advice. It is not okay to get defensive when it occurs because it provides them exactly what they are seeking, a negative response from you and it gives them points that they do not deserve. Assumptions are based on fear of the unknown. And as my 13-year old just said, "Fear is a choice." And your response to that fear is also a choice.Do not let it block your amazingness!

It is my job and daily determination to prove them wrong every time without making my own negative energy and without taking on theirs. It is vital that you maintain a positive and strong sense of self without arrogance. Simply emit the love you have for your flaws and strengths each time folks try and make their assumptions about you the truth. Easier said than done when folks are constantly placing their own fears an ignorance onto you.

So it is my job and daily determination to prove them wrong every time without making my own negative energy and without taking on theirs. And without negating my originality or uniqueness that makes me who I am. In return when you are challenged by your own assumptions of others maintain a more open mind and lessen your fear of something new and different. But always know that at the core, Assumptions are a bitch!