Confessions of a Single Parent (Actress)

Society continues to support individuals creating and sticking to deadlines for major life experiences. “I hope to be married by the time I reach 30.” I will have children by the time I am 25.” “I will find the job of my dreams 6 months after college.” “I will be debt free before 40.” I will never struggle like my parents.” I will score one national commercial and pay off everything.” And then you wake up and you quickly realize that life does not check-in according to the deadlines you established. In fact, you begin to wonder why you made them in the first place. As we make deadlines and then beat ourselves up when they do not come to fruition, we actually stop growing and learning. We stop looking at what is happening around us. For many of us, we end up in terribly ill-fitting relationships simply because we would rather make a deadline or not be alone as opposed to being with a person who is good for us. We continue to work dead end jobs in a state of misery because it fi...

Just recently, I have been blessed to experience what it feels like to see your face on TV. And I must say, that it is a wonderful feeling. All of those auditions, all of the rejections, all of those times that folks kept saying, "Are you still doing that acting thing?" So now what? Well just like my many friends and peers who are also in this crazy life we call "show bizness," I am still budgeting invisible money for my housing and bills. I am still waiting for auditions to come up. In fact, I am sure that I am headed to court this week for some other shit that comes with being broke and smart. Despite everything, I would not trade this life for any other. You know why? Because unlike many who live in fear of taking risk, I live with all of my fears on a daily basis. I drink them like smoothies before I go swimming and sleep with them like pillows each night. They stand next to me each time I look in the mirror and they have become friends.  Yes, friends. They en...