The hiatus from Dating

Dating used to be fun. When people actually communicated in person instead of texting, sexting, or swiping yes or no on an app. I used to get very excited about the prospect of a new experience and leaving disappointment in my rear-view mirror.

Today, I find I have to actually take breaks or hiatuses each time it just doesn't work out...once again...for whatever reason. Just like an adult, I examine my side of it and compare and contrast what was said and what was actually done. Then I forgive myself and move past it. But, today I am realizing that I may no longer be able to handle rejection in my personal and professional life. Imagine entering a room of strangers once or twice a week, knowing that each time is an opportunity to be rejected or not considered. Then imagine the act of you rejecting others and you also being rejected for all kinds of reasons. And that is the reason that my breaks get a bit longer each time because my capacity for healing is growing more limited.

The only good thing that has come from my last dating spree is that I created an amazing script with the words that I actually heard and experienced first hand. I produced something that I hope can bring some laughs and insight into the realm of relationships. I also learned that it is perfectly okay to never ever ever settle for less than I deserve because I am amazingly kind and beautiful from the inside out.

My advice to anyone who is over 40 and still interested in dating is the following. Of course, I reference age because my 20s and 30s were very different because I was different. Soo now for the advice. Have fun. Be open minded. Listen to your gut. Believe your feelings. And most of all communicate clearly without conjecture and subterfuge. And please believe your gut. (Worth mentioning twice). Live in your truth. Become whole before entering a relationship. And have fun (Worth mentioning again too).  And if you find a match, wonderful. If you do not, it is okay to take a break and relish in the quiet because if it was meant to be it would be. And if crazy happens, exit stage left with grace and confidence.